Tough Questions On Sexuality

Here are some answers to some of the tough questions on sexuality.

Masturbation

We cover this in the book “GenSexyz” quite clearly.

You really can define this question from a spiritually conservative or progressive approach.

Many people I respect are on both sides of these beliefs. In such a short space, here's the best answer:

Masturbation from a social science approach has both negatives and positives in research. Masturbation from a spiritual approach is unclear so we have to look at the whole of scripture.

If masturbation is accompanied with lust or pornography, it is sin. If masturbation is done without lust or pornography, like wet dreams or hot flashes or self-release, it can lessen the sexual pressures that build up in our body.

What is very clear is that masturbation when done with pornography is lust and therefore sin.

Virginity and Purity

Should I wait to marry a virgin?

I to be honest, this is more of a personal answer for whoever is asking this question.

When a girl or boy create their “list", this may be high on it. But if we truly believe in the power of transformation and the gospel, someone who has lost their virginity isn't seen by their past.

The scriptures say a lot on this topic, and it is profoundly about grace and not the past.

It is important to note that if you lose your virginity you are not able to get that back. You cannot reverse the physical effects of lost virginity.

But, if you lose your virginity, you can get your purity back.

It would seem to me, that purity gained is more important than virginity once lost.

Dating Ideas

Here are some practical ideas for clean dating. Our discipline on dates is an important part of relationship building.

1.     GROUP DATING IS MUCH SAFER AND MORE FUN

2.     NEVER PLACE THE CAR IN PARK AND STAY INSIDE IT TOGETHER

3.     STAY OUT OF EACH OTHER'S BEDROOMS

4.     MAKE YOUR DATES PUBLIC AND NOT PRIVATE SETTINGS

5.     IF WATCHING A MOVIE, DO NOT LAY DOWN TOGETHER UNDER A BLANKET WITH THE LIGHTS OFF

6.     ALWAYS TELL EACH OTHER'S PARENTS WHERE YOU ARE GOING AND WHAT TIME YOU WILL BE BACK

7.     IF YOU'VE BEEN DATING FOR A WHILE, DRAW UP A PURITY CONTRACT AND HAVE EACH OF YOU SIGN IT

 Gender Transitioning

What do you tell a person who has already changed their gender about the principles of sexuality and specifically gender design?

I’ve linked this question with several others similar it.

Gender is sacred. And God created male and female. (Genesis 1-5)

But, confusing this argument, we have attempted the creation of multiple descript genders by feelings and social order.

However, if we lose the sacredness of gender, we lose sexuality. This is the binary/non-binary description of gender.

Binary being two genders (male & female) and non-binary being multiple genders. In the case of someone who has already had or in the process of a physical change, there will be major conflicts of soul and personality during and after the changes.

It really helps when you deal with gender and design to get people to the scriptures and away from cultural thinking.

Here are a few verses:

Genesis 1-5, Exodus 20, Song of Solomon, Matthew 19, Romans 1, Galatians 5, 1 Timothy 1

If you check the book, GenSeXYZ, you will also see we covered a lot of gender transition history in the medical field and gender creation in the book.

There are many more tough questions when it comes to sexuality. If you visit the blog, you will see a lot of writing on this topic.