Mental Health and Wellness (1)

If you need assistance or immediate help for any kind of teen behavior, you can go to our HELP! page here on the site.

But, in this post today, I’ve included the hotline number also. In the U.S., call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

Today we heard of the tragic loss of Jarrid Wilson to suicide. Jarrid was a loving husband, devoted father, pastor to many, and an activist for mental health. He was a strength and a help to many people who struggle with mental health. And yet, today he succumbed to the very illness that he was so passionately trying to end for all of us. He leaves behind his wife Julianne and two young sons. Jarrid was 30 years old.

How can we properly tribute Jarrid’s work? I believe that we could learn to spread the important message of mental and emotional health.

There are many triggers to poor mental health. It could be a chemical imbalance, family history, pervasive influence of Social Media comparisons, the gaming role-play violence, Madison Avenue marketing, PTSD, or even the break-up of the family system. Whatever the cause of poor mental health, the reality is that we have seen a rise in depression, and, ultimately, suicide in the Millennial and the Gen Z set.

In order to carry Jarrid Wilson’s message to another generation in his loss, as YTH Leaders, how can we counter the mental health issues and depression in this generation? How do we recognize these, and other contributing issues, at center stage of the destruction of teenage self-esteem and mental health? Afterall, the teen years should be the greatest days of a teenagers life.

A Working Definition

Let’s deal with one aspect of mental health. Depression.

Depression can be seen as a severe dejection, sadness, and despondency. It creates isolation, confusion, and fear. It generally is considered long-term, but, it can come and go in various levels for a short period of time also. There are many troubling signs when it comes to depression.

As a YTH Leader, to identify students who are struggling with depression, here are just a few things you should be looking for:

  • Poor academic performance in school

  • Withdrawal from family, friends, and activities

  • Sadness and hopelessness

  • Lack of enthusiasm, energy, or motivation

  • Anger and rage and aggressiveness

  • Overreaction to criticism

  • Feelings of being unable to satisfy ideals

  • Poor self-esteem, cutting, or bodily harm

  • Indecision or lack of concentration and forgetfulness

  • Changes in eating or sleeping or behavioral patterns

  • Substance abuse

  • Problems with the family, or community, or authority

  • And ultimately suicidal thoughts or actions

With this as a foundation, let’s look at how to deal with depression in teenagers lives. This is always a timely message, but, often suicide becomes a viral response after the knowledge of someone taking their life. Others have often followed in the wake of someone else’s decision to end their life.

Help! My Students Are Depressed

These should be the best days of a teenagers life. Yet, dealing with depression in teenagers can be difficult - not just because of the aforementioned triggers - but because they haven’t developed their brain and necessary critical thinking skills. Following are some practical helps for YTH Leaders to counter the depression in this generation.

1. Health and Wellness issues. This can be seen in skin problems, heart disease, blood pressure, weight gain/loss, sleeplessness, and organ dysfunction. And when our health fails, so does everything else. Health issues can be the cause or the outcome of depression. Notice the signs and be pro-active to address these.

PRACTICAL HELP - As a YTH Leader we must be emphasizing the importance of wellness in our own life as well as our students. What are we modeling to our students by the way we eat, exercise, or sleep? Or by how we take care of our relationships. Wellness should be something that gets into our messaging to teens on a regular basis.

2. Negative thinking and talk. Listen. A teens perspective is a powerful solution to any situation they may be in. So listen. It can be easy to minimize God and maximize our problems. But, we must help teens maximize God and minimize their problems. If my hand represents my problem and I place my hand in front of my face I will not be able to see anything. What I have to do is put that problem or hand in perspective and move it away from my face so that I can see.

Learn to speak and to hear optimism. It is important to be honest, aware, realistic, and positive about life. Our words reveal a lot about ourselves and others. So listen.

PRACTICAL HELP - Speak positively to teens. Don’t mock them or bully them in personal conversation or publicly. Help them change their surroundings, or furniture, or the clothing that triggers bad memories, or bad habits, or even changing their mindset. This can make an immediate difference. Move from a negative perspective to a positive one with your words. Speak joy, peace, self-love, and forgiveness over their life daily.

3. Relationships are critical. For many reasons. But mostly because our relationships are the greatest impact upon our life. And if our relationships are broken, we experience depression, anger, negativity, or isolation. We end up unable to think beyond our problem and believing that we are the only one experiencing what we are going through.

PRACTICAL HELP - Be an example of love to your students. Tell them publicly that you love them. Speak life into them. And build a culture of community. If you see teens who show signs of depression it is important to keep them connected to mature, steady, peers and adults who can help them problem solve.

Bad relationships can isolate us from help. We can learn so much from the university of people around us. In community, we can see that others have gone through the same thing I am experiencing and they have won!

4. Idolatry steals away our worship of God. It may be difficult to see this. And how it relates to depression. Let me explain. Idolatry removes God from our worldview and places other things at the center of our life. And when we remove God from our life, we start to build a mindset around what we have replaced God with.

For instance, when people become our focus, if they disappoint us it sends us into depression. Or, if we place money as our focus, if we don’t have enough of it, we get depressed. And finally, if we allow Madison Avenue to define our look or Social Media to define our image, we become depressed. But, when our focus is upon God and His grace and mercy in our lives, we have a foundation to deal with any disappointment.

PRACTICAL HELP - Worship should be a major part of every YTH Ministry. Music and the worship of God is powerful. It can help us focus upon the right things in life. Worship resets the presence of God into our thinking and lives and replaces God back on the throne. Use music to build the presence of God in teens lives. Encourage them to make their bedroom a prayer room. A worship center!

5. The Sabbaoth has been lost. When is the last time you rested for a day? Can you remember when you last took a nap? Or spent an hour doing nothing. In this Millennial and Gen Z set there is the idea that if I am busy I am producing. Stop equating business with spirituality. Christianity is more about grace and rest than it is about works.

The Sabbaoth is a commandment. God didn’t give us a suggestion. He gave us a command. That we would rest. Faith and rest will be a great cure for the stresses that can cause depression. Rest can change our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual lives.

I love what David said in Psalm 31. In the middle of great turmoil and stress, David cried, "As for me, I trust in the Lord. I say you are my God. And I run and chase and cling to you as my refuge."

PRACTICAL HELP - Slow teens down. Even having a YTH Service once a quarter that is all worship or prayer can be a stress relief. We don’t have to always be programming. And ask for students to commit to the YTH Ministry. A period of time committed to the Church will reap great rewards in their life. Make the stress of life drive them to God by creating a regular sabbaoth that places faith and rest as a priority in the ministry.


Finally, ask for help. All of us have an issue. All of us have something that we would like to change. All of us have something that we would rather not share with people. But that is dangerous. Every one of us should have somebody that we can talk to honestly. If you are seeing depression in students, try using these preventative actions. You may be able to curb the downhill spiral if you catch it quickly:

  • Controlling stress - Find outside activities to involve teens in that will help them alleviate stress in their life. Exercise and outdoor activities increase perspective and health.

  • Involve teens in community - We all need a good crew or tribe or group around us. It increases the chances of a teen asking other peers to help them solve problems and making it through difficult times. This is critical to their mental health in times of crisis.

  • Academic tutoring - I have seen this increase the self-esteem of a teen quickly. Especially in the Millennial and the Gen Z sets who are so driven by scholastic success.

  • Mentoring relationships - Sometimes peer relationships are not enough. But an adult can help a teen see with more experience, wisdom, and knowledge. Icons have a great affect upon us. Use them in teens lives wisely.

  • There is nothing wrong with referral to a counselor - Prevention of depression from worsening is best handled by a professional. There is a growing acceptance for these trained counselors in our society. And that is a good thing.

Role Models

Jarrid Wilson was a role model to many dealing with mental health issues. By giving attention to some of these things in this blog, we can influence teenagers mental health. Aside from these things above, there are some simple things to help you counter depression that are found in Exodus 20 in the Ten Commandments, and, in Psalm 46 and the words of David. Both of these chapters deal with the preeminence of God in our lives.

The writers combine to tell us to ‘place God before everything’ and ‘keep the sabbaoth’ and to ‘be still and know that He is God.’ These would be great prayers to pray over ourselves and the teens we serve.

Depression can be identified early and solved with a holistic approach of spiritual leadership, practical physical wellness, and mental health counseling. It is elementary to YTH Leadership that we are equipped to deal with depression. Hopefully these words will help equip you to be a healthy role model to a generation in desperate need of guidance.

And join me in praying for the Wilson family and friends who are dealing with their sudden loss.

Jeff Grenell